Sunday, 3 August 2014

3- How to Drop Judging People - Meditation ( Osho )

"When you are not doing anything at all -- bodily, mentally, on no level -- when all activity has ceased and you simply are, just being, that's what meditation is. You cannot do it, you cannot practice it; you have only to understand it."





Thought : Today I become a witness, and judge nothing that occurs


Whenever you judge, it does not apply to the person at all, it can apply only to the act. And that act too is taken out of context because you don't know his whole life. It is as if you tear a page from a novel and you read it and you judge the novel by it. It is not right; it is out of context. The whole novel may be a totally different thing. You may have taken a negative part, an ugly part.

Your judgment shows something about you, nothing about the person you have judged, because his history remains unavailable to you, his being remains unavailable to you. All contexts are lost, there is just a momentary flash - and your interpretation will be your interpretation. It will show something about you. Seeing this, judging disappears.



The Method  
Just one thing to do: 

whenever you feel any judgment coming in the mind, change the breathing pattern, and immediately you will see a change and that the judgment has disappeared.  
Whenever you want to change a pattern of the mind that has become a long- standing habit, breathing is the best thing. All habits of the mind are associated with the pattern of breathing. Change the pattern of breathing and the mind changes immediately, instantly. Try it.  
Whenever you see that a judgment is coming and you are getting into an old habit, immediately exhale -- as if you are throwing the judgment out with the exhalation. Exhale deeply, pulling the stomach in, and as you throw out the air, feel, visualize, that the whole judgment is being thrown out.  

Then take in fresh air deeply, two or three times, and just see what happens. You will feel a complete freshness; the old habit will not have been able to take possession. So start by exhalation, not inhalation. When you want to take something in, start inhaling; if you want to throw something out, start by exhalation and just see how immediately the mind is affected.  

And don't be worried about it, because the very worry gives it emphasis and feeds it. Simply do this and immediately you will see that the mind has moved somewhere else; a new breeze has come. You are not in the old groove so you will not repeat the old habit. And this is true for all habits. For example, if you smoke, if the urge comes to smoke and you don't want to, immediately exhale deeply and throw the urge out. Have a fresh breath in and you will see immediately that the urge has gone. This can become a very, very important tool for inner change. 

Just try it!   


Allow yourself to be 


I respect  not judge !


Verse by Osho on judgmental tendencies 


From the outside that's what we can judge. From the outside it is always wrong.

Seeing it again and again, understanding it again and again, penetrating it again and again, you will not need to drop judgements, they drop of their own accord.

Just watch. Whenever you judge, you are doing something foolish. It does not apply to the person at all, it can apply only to the act. And that act too is taken out of context because you don't know his whole life. It is as if you tear a page from a novel and you read it and you judge the novel by it. It is not right; it is out of context. The whole novel may be a totally different thing. You may have taken a negative part, an ugly part.

But you don't know anybody's life in its totality. A man has lived for forty years before you come to meet him. Those forty years of context are there. The man is going to live forty years more when you have left him. Those forty years of context are going to be there. And you saw the man, just a single instance of him, and you judged him. That is not right. That is just stupid. It will not have any relevance to the man himself.

Your judgement will show something more about you than about the man. 'Judge ye not so that ye may not be judged' -- that's what Jesus says. Your judgement shows something about you, nothing about the person you have judged -- because his history remains unavailable to you, his being remains unavailable to you. All contexts are lost, there is just a momentary flash -- and your interpretation will be your interpretation. It will show something about you.

Seeing this, judging disappears. 

Osho
Sufis: The People of the Path, Vol 2
Chapter #10
Chapter title: Out of the Mud and the Mire
5 September 1977 am in Buddha Hall


Osho says, “If judgment disappears, you have become innocent. If you don’t divide things into good and bad, ugly and beautiful, acceptable and nonacceptable; if you don’t divide things, if you look at reality without any division, your eyes will come into existence for the first time. This is chakshusmati vidya, the signs of gaining eyes.”

Osho further shares - judge the actions not the person. “Judge actions, and correct them, and don't correct them according to tradition, convention, according to so-called morality, according to your prejudices. Whenever you are correcting somebody, be very meditative, be very silent; look at the whole thing from all perspectives. Perhaps they are doing the right thing, and your prevention will not be right at all.
So when I say, "Don't judge," I simply mean that no action gives you the right to condemn the person. If the action is not right, help the person -- find out why the action is not right, but there is no question of judgment. Don't take the person's dignity, don't humiliate him, don't make him feel guilty.
Particularly systems, conventions, traditions -- judge them! But don't judge individuals. If their actions are wrong, help them to get free of those wrong actions. If they are going in wrong directions, help them to find right paths. And this should be your love, this should not be your judgment.”
Osho 

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